I was 19 years old, in college, and my roommate’s mum saw me for the first time in a few months and nonchalantly said “My, Lisa, you’ve gotten fat” Yep, thats right! I had been struggling for yeeeeears with my relationship to food and my body and here I was metaphorically back hand slapped in the face. Twice. And daaaaamn did it sting. So what do you think I did? Nothin. Diddly bloody squat! Thats what I did.
Now, that was 25 years ago and I remember it to this day and I just can’t shake it. I don’t think she meant it maliciously, but how many times do we suck it up and stay quiet when someone we know says or asks something TOTALLY inappropriate? Whether it’s about our weight, relationship, career, or anything that has absolutely nothing to do with them, how can we respond and stand up for ourselves?
Well I figured this time of year is the hardest for many of us so I turned to the only woman who is equipped to help and teach us how to do JUST THAT…..Psychotherapist, Terri Cole!!
I sit down with the boundary expert to explore the essential tools and techniques for setting and enforcing boundaries in every aspect of life. From personal relationships to dealing with intrusive questions, this episode will arm you with actionable strategies to protect your mental health and well-being.
And trust me, homie, Terri’s wisdom on handling toxic family dynamics and inappropriate questions is going to be a game-changer for you. Get ready to transform the way you interact with those around you and step into your power!
We dig deep into:
– Strategies to handle intrusive and inappropriate questions with confidence.
– Practical ways to set and maintain boundaries with family members during gatherings.
– Differentiating between a narcissistic and a self-centered mother
– Recognizing different types of boundary violators and the tailored approaches needed for each.
– How to communicate non-negotiable boundaries like fidelity and no physical abuse in relationships.
– The importance of open and regular communication about boundaries to maintain healthy relationships.
By the end of this episode, you’ll have a toolkit full of practical tips and strategies to set and enforce boundaries effectively, ensuring you’re respected and your well-being is prioritized.
So if you’re ready to learn how to navigate family dynamics, and master the art of boundary setting, this episode is for you! Get empowered to live authentically and without compromise and become the boundary boss you were born to be!
CHAPTER MARKERS:
[00:00] Challenge invasive questions with “Why ask me that?”
[05:28] Strategically prepare to manage family gathering interactions.
[09:49] Setting boundaries takes time and practice.
[16:32] Understanding narcissistic mothers: It’s a hidden struggle.
[29:47] Ineffective delegation leads to disordered boundaries.
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